There are many ways a person can handle situations in life. And since every individual is different, they all handle things differently. But there are three major ways people respond to stimuli. One way is to be a complete bull dozer and eradicate anything that is blocking your ascension. All of us have the ability to leave behind something that does not serve our highest good anymore. It is not as difficult as literature, movies and fantasies tell us that it might be. We have come in an age where leaving is considered failing. When rejection really is God’s protection. The second way, people handle things is healthier. Some people always speak their truth before they do something that will affect the other. Born with a larynx, humans are meant to communicate about what is and isn’t. Still, many people find it easier to leave a situation without uttering a syllable. I would argue, that every coin has two sides. So responses too cannot be predicted. No two same situations call for the same response. There are always multiple ways in which a conversation, fight, job or resignation can evolve into. Life has endless possibilities even for the ones who constrict themselves. Exploration of these ways of being is enlightening to the very core. For example, if you know that speaking your truth would be a waste of breath, then, by all means, leave. Silence does speak the loudest. But even in that situation, you can choose if you want to waste that breath or not. The biggest blessing we have is the ability to choose for ourselves. We can create our own completion and closure. So, use it to its fullest potential. The next way is, well, many people call it “going with the flow”. Water falling from height or flowing calmly in a river, knows when to divide in order get past an obstacle. Sometimes, in going with the flow, people tend to forget what’s an obstacle and what’s it blocking them from. They start taking what comes their way when they have the ability to serve and defect. If you can move, then why shouldn’t you? Such passivity can be useful when people are pushed into survival mode. But life is meant for you to thrive and flourish in. You don’t always have to be in survival mode to get past the stones life throws at you. Not all things are set in stone and rules subject to perception. So why should our actions conform to a law that isn’t even on paper. We are all slaves to our psyche. Evolving includes challenging oneself. And humans are built to last. One should believe in their power as an individual. You are your own person. You will always have yourself. This realization sets you free and makes you someone who has mastered the art of interaction. Now this interaction can be with yourself or with the outside world. Because not all stimuli stem from material world around us. So honey, wake up everyday and choose what you want, and how you want it. Choose what your crowning emotion of the day would be. Do it for your mental health or just for the sake of it. You know you’re able.
A lot of people believe that things are happening to them, as opposed to happening for them. I firmly believe that there are always two sides of a coin. And that’s a fact. But this fact too, goes both ways. Either you can have ten swords in your back, fall onto the cold, hard ground and stay there. Or you can get up with the swords still in your back and move forward. As you move forward, you would get rid of those swords one by one. The process is not easy and definitely isn’t a quick fix. Now we come to another fact, Rome was not built in a day or nothing ever good comes easy. This fact goes both ways too. You have to work hard to achieve your dreams and maintain yourself. So why not work hard when it comes to healing yourself. Aren’t the severed parts yours?
Another thing people say is that healing takes time. But if you healed fast would it be justice to the searing pain that you endured. The universe has to balance the scales. Newton said that every action has an equal and opposite reaction. So when you were hurt so badly, cut so deeply; how do you expect yourself to heal easily? It would not be justice to the pain involved. And anyway, we’ve heard that pain demands to be felt. Healing takes time. So give it the time it needs, and the time you deserve.
Many say, that they don’t have the strength to get back up by themselves. No one said that you have to do it alone. The rules of healing are not set in stone. In fact, nothing ever is set in stone. It’s our imagination, customs, norms, values and beliefs that make us think that something is set in stone. So, ask for help. It’s hard to get out but extend your fingers. Someone will hold onto you. Something will hold onto you. After that, you just have to hold onto them. This life has endless possibilities to change. This life has endless courses to take. This life has amazing potential to evolve and bring happiness into itself. But you have to believe in it, so it can grow. We come across another saying here, I’ve heard that parents should believe in their little ones for them to make leaps and bounds of progress. Anything can make progress if you believe in it. So shower some appreciation onto your working lungs, kidneys and heart. Be grateful for this body as it has endured so much and is still standing. It’s the one thing you had since the start. It is going to stay till the very end too.
We come to our last saying for the day, being grateful and positive is the key to happiness and abundance. It plays a part in healing too. So give out positive affirmations into the universe and let yourself believe in them. Be grateful for what you have and appreciate the little things in life. Being happy starts with you and ends with you. Everyday you can choose to be sad or happy. It’s a choice. You can choose for yourself, if you want to be messy and zesty or work your ass off on something that’s important to you. Or you can be both and still be well withing your rights to be you. The key is you, no matter which lock you want to open. And every lock has a key.